Narcissism, Echoism and Abuse in Adult Relationships
Narcissism is one of those topics with a lot of emotional energy attached to it, due to the extreme pain experienced by anyone that becomes romantically involved with people with personality disorders. If you go on the internet there is a tidal wave of information about narcissism. There are a lot of Ph. Ds and life coaches giving their approaches. I have watched a LOT of videos on this topic but the one thing you need to keep in mind is that these behaviors occur on a spectrum and not everyone falls into the clinically disordered category. To be fair, there is also healthy narcissism. This is what creates a…
Insecure Attachment Styles and Childhood Trauma
Your attachment style is formed in early childhood. Anywhere from 6 weeks – 10 months old you developed behaviors in reactions to your caregivers. If you parents did a good job in parenting, you most likely have a Secure attachment style. Lucky You! 50 – 60% of the population has this style. If your caregivers were not consistent in their parenting, or there were other issues in the family such as a chemical dependency, mental illness, or neglect, you likely have an Insecure attachment style. Your attachment style informs your sense of safety and influences your ability to bond with others. These learned behaviors become most evident in your closest…
Co-Dependency’s seeds are sown in childhood.
The behaviors of co-dependency are learned in childhood as an effort to get your needs met from your caregivers. Oftentimes, your parents are not able to meet some or all of you physical and emotional needs due to some type of chemical dependency, mental illness, abuse or their own co-dependency that is keeping them focused on a disordered partner. As a result, the child learns any or all of the following behaviors to keep them safe. However, when carried into adulthood they can manifest into unhealthy behaviors with romantic partners and is often also present in your interactions with friends, family and coworkers. Caretaking – Feeling Responsible for solving others…
